For almost 6 years now I have lived according to that decision.
My husband and I both have done all that we can to make sure that our children have nice things, decent clothing, and a clean/safe home to live in.
But recently a 4ft storm has been brewing in the Larios homestead.
You see, my oldest son will turn 6 next month and has recently decided (much to my irritation) that he is old enough to take care of himself.
Now, I don't mean he's getting a job, paying the bills, or even cooking for himself.
(I'm not willing to let go of that much control!)
But my 5 going-on-15-year old son now thinks he's old enough to pick out his clothes for school, bathe himself, and no longer needs me to comb his hair.
I know what you're thinking, "He's 6! Let the kid be independent."
And when it comes to bath time I do. He needs to learn some modesty so I've let him take over that particular task.
As for the rest? I'm trying.
And it would be so much easier on my end if HE WASN'T DOING IT WRONG!!!!
I know I'm letting my control freak flag fly here but really, the child looks like he was raised in a barn!
We are talking full on rag-a-muffin style: mismatched clothes with uncombed hair, holes in the knees of his pants (that I've patched and replaced and he STILL picks the ones with holes) and nasty little boy shoes.
Getting an mental image?
As a mom. I take pride in how my children look. I've always believed that it reflects back on me. So I've always tried to make sure that their clothes are presentable and they are presentable in their clothes.
But I've apparently lost all control with this one.
And I'm not very happy about it.
And apparently he's just as stubborn as his
I've tried to persuade him, to bargain with him, and to bride him with absolutely no result.
He literally turned down a cookie before breakfast because he didn't wanna change his nasty pants.
And if you knew my son, you'd know that he does not turn down cookies.
(Oh, and I've tried to compromise with him and teach him...no luck there either. Little brat.)
So I'm at a loss.
And the biggest issue I'm having is that part of me wants to allow him to have this independence to be himself, to learn on his own, and to grow up comfortable making his own decisions. You know, all that level headed, psychology based parenting stuff.
The other part of me is DYING (maybe not literally, but a part of me is) because my son looks homeless.
I'm honestly waiting for the day that the school counselor calls me to ask if we are struggling financially at home based on this child's appearance.
It's that bad.
(And this part of the rant has been based solely on his clothes. You don't even wanna know how bad his hair as been! Which, lets just say, if I knew would be this bad. I'd never have let him get the Mohawk style cut.)
So what's a mother to do?!
Do I start enforcing that he dresses the way I say?
Do I tie him to the chair to run a comb through the quaff at the top of his head?
Because I just don't think that's the way I wanna go.
I think I'm just gonna do some old fashion manipulating and donate all the clothes he owns that I don't like.
After all, if it's not there he can't wear it right?!
***Have any parenting struggles of your own you'd like to share? Let's hear about them in the comments section! I'd love to know that I'm not the only mom out there that is facing childhood stubbornness***